When something bad happens to us, we question everything. Why did this happen? How could you [God] allow this? What did I do to deserve this? Those who are thoughtful or naturally deep thinkers might take this farther and ask: What do you want me to learn from this God?
What if that bad thing happened to you because somebody else needed to learn a lesson?
That’s not how Sunday sermons prepare us for trials, is it? Maybe getting fired for something you didn’t do was God trying to soften your boss’ heart? Maybe God is teaching a skeptical coworker the truth about how people of integrity handle injustice? Maybe your trial is a consequence for someone else and you are just collateral damage.
Maybe it’s not about you.
Does this mean that God won’t teach you something through that time also? Absolutely not. Does it mean that God isn’t with you? Nope. But it means we must take our gaze off of our own hurt and seek God’s heart in it all. No experience is wasted if it makes us more like Christ.